I recently uploaded an insta pic which is still capturing my heart. I don’t feel the caption I provided does enough justice to the topic at hand, which is the extraordinary bond between a mother and child.
The bond between mother and child is so powerful. This photo speaks volumes to me, a picture really does reveal endless reflections and words. Motherhood is so personal, so deep and so intimate all in one. I’ve met countless mums who fret about the little things instead of looking at the big picture which is - Love.
It got me thinking of all the beautiful and lets be real - extraordinary mother’s that I have met through my business and why they’re so hard on themselves! Motherhood in all forms is so tough because it is so individualised. I haven’t come across one parent who doesn’t have the latest edition of Pinky McKay, Tizzie or ‘What to expect when you’re expecting’. These books while helpful to some do miss a key value (in raising mini humans that you have grown inside of your own body) - Love and Acknowledgment.
Whether it’s the terrible two’s, three-nager, newborn or first day of school there are always going to be hurdles in the form of miscommunication. As your child progresses (never regresses) in their development they (to put it simply) on the wrong page to you. I visit so many clients who mention what routine they’ve tried or they’ve read this and the most common “is it normal”. These are are very valid but I want to strongly encourage you all to take a step back and look at things from their point of you.
We need to be less harsh on ourselves as we evolve together with our children - yes together! Your child’s development tests you because you are learning it as much as they are. How you feel when the breakfast gets thrown across the kitchen is as unreasonable to them as it is to you. Take a moment at each hurdle to reflect and acknowledge them. Your love and understanding is what will remain. Your love and understanding is what will get you through - because you are ALL doing an amazing job. You are ALL amazing Mother’s.
Treasure all moments, soak up all the memories (including throw downs) and smile. It’s always better to remember the hard times with a smile, even the hourly wakes for feeding or find the dummy that’s right next to them.